Joyous Grief: Navigating After-Loss in the Holiday Season

The holidays are often discussed with a nod to a difficult truth: the light and joy of this season are not universal. For many, a time centered on gathering with loved ones is deeply hard. Loss can feel like another difficult season to endure, but it does not have to be that way.

There is space to honor those we have lost by weaving their memory and their love into our traditions. This may not ease the grief or fill the emptiness they left behind. But that is less the goal. The goal is to find ways to navigate the holidays with your loved one in mind and to practice this within your routines and traditions.

This is also a good time to engage with others. Whole Life operates from the ethos that no one should have to go it alone, whether in loss or in leaving. We invite those who are struggling to connect with others who have experienced loss. This can open paths for care and forward motion. Grief circles, for instance, build community around shared experience. You might also simply call a friend to share stories of your person, a favorite memory, or to talk about parts of the holiday you are finding difficult.

If you decorate for the holidays, consider dedicating an ornament, a cookie, or a stocking in memory of your loved one, ensuring they remain a part of your season. Grief, after all, is a manifestation of love. That love and honor can still shine.

You can develop meaningful ways to live with your grief alongside others, in memory of your loved one. While these practices may help you adopt a different perspective, you should never feel obligated to do anything beyond your capacity. Your grief and your timeline are your own. They may look different each year, with highs and lows and in-betweens. You are the captain of your own ship. We would welcome any opportunity to serve as a beacon, connecting you to our services or network for support right where you are.

We are sending you warmth and love this holiday season, wherever it finds you.